My Urban Chick

January 20, 2010

On Pickiness

Filed under: Random thoughts, men — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 1:15 pm

picky

So I’m now at the age where everybody and their mother is getting married.  Most of my friends are in long term relationships and I only have a handful of single friends.  As someone who has not been single for quite some time, I sometimes try to set my single friends up.  I mean, I know it definitely can’t be easy seeing your non-single friends couple off, tying the knot, etc. but I’m not sure if my wanting to see my friends in happy relationships is helping or just pouring salt over the wound.

There are a few friends that I’ve given up on trying to set up and that’s mostly due to their own admitted pickiness.  Now, I wonder, is there anything wrong with that?  I mean, you’re hopefully spending the rest of your life with this person. Why not make sure they are compatible in the ways that you want?  Or does it matter more whether or not their meet your criteria in looks, personality traits or values?  Should you settle?  There’s this moment in the movie “Up in the Air” where the 23-year-old girl talks about her perfect man – right down to the Jeep Grand Cherokee he drives while the older 40-something woman says that she wants a “nice smile” and maybe “some hair.”  Maybe time allows you to sift through what’s really important to you, but only time will tell.

December 23, 2009

Another Reason Why Girls and Boys are Different

Filed under: Random thoughts, men — Tags: — myurbanchick @ 4:34 pm

Recently, I was forced to ride in an hour long traffic-filled car ride with 3 other guys and just me.  The discussion got into things these guys didn’t understand about girls, and of course, I was forced to defend my gender.  The topics included:

1.) Why girls are catty:  Yes, girls can look a girl up and down and critique her outfit/hair, etc.  I wouldn’t call it mean-spirited per say, and I don’t think most girls make snide comments like that.  I do have to admit, when girls are together as a group it can be a bit intimidating.  I’ve recently tried to infiltrate a certain girl group at work – only to be shot down. :(

2.) Boys & fashion:  The BF likes to shop and he even wears a purple scarf (he claims it’s only because he got it as a gift, but there are plenty of other “gifts” that are sitting at the bottom of a drawer somewhere).  I even send him links on things I’m thinking about buying and he provides feedback.  BUT, the big fashion trend he doesn’t currently seem to get are booties.  I recently bought a pair and tried it on in front of him – he laughed for 10 minutes straight (I kid you not).  If boys had their way, girls would wear heels every day every hour.  Here are the booties.  Cute, no?

booties

3.) Weight:  Yes, girls complain about their weight a lot.  But seriously, if a girl gains 10+ lbs, I do not hear the end of it from my guy friends.   Yes, it’s important for a girl to look good and feel good about herself.  But the pressure from outside external forces (ahem, that’s you guys), it’s just as big of an incentive to stay in shape.

December 20, 2009

Baking Therapy

Filed under: Food, Recipes — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 1:11 pm

The holidays can be stressful and the past few weeks have certainly been tough for me.  So what better way to decompress (without overindulging in expensive massage therapy, retail therapy, and alcohol therapy) then to try out a new recipe?  I always tend to rack up a list of recipes that I need to try in the near future, but a lot of times baking is like going to the gym for me…if I’m there, sure why not? But the hardest part is picking out the recipe, going to the market to buy ingredients, and getting myself to preheat the oven, pull out the hand mixer (someday I will be afford to afford you Kitchenaid!), among other things.

The best part is creating a successful recipe and seeing the people who you share it with enjoy it.  Plus, it’s fun thinking of creative ways to package them as gifts.  A lot of times, avoiding holiday poundage has resulted in me baking things that I know I will not like (things with chocolate in them) so I won’t overindulge and I can pawn them off on other people.  So below are a couple pictures of things I made this weekend.  Happy Holidays!

Red Velvet Cake Covered in Chocolate

Red Velvet Cake Covered in Chocolate

Pumpkin Butter Bars

Pumpkin Butter Bars

December 18, 2009

Movie Review: “Up in the Air”

Filed under: Movie Review — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 12:44 am

2009 has been an extremely rough year.  I can safely say that at least 10% of the US and 15% of Californians would agree with that.  The holidays have most definitely compounded those feelings of anxiety and stress and while most people scramble to find gifts for their loved ones or struggle to make ends meet, the desire for escapism can be strong.

So of course, in my bid to escape, I went to the movies.  As a true masochist (I also watched The Food Network when I was on an 8 day liquid diet), I opted to watch “Up in the Air.”  The movie smartly begins by introducing you to a man who could not be more different than the average person – as Ryan, the man who fires people for a living, George Clooney is smooth and charming to the people he fires while at the same time feeling at home in airports, lounges, and hotel rooms.  He is a true “road warrior” and his philosophy is evident in his motivational speeches to people advocating personal minimalization.  Like the carefully packed suitcase he carries, Ryan compartmentalizes his relationships with people, keeping even his family at a distance.

Ryan’s dream is to join the elite 7 who have reached over 10 million miles – the Amex Black card of frequent flier miles (you even get your own personal concierge).  The director ironically juxtaposes Ryan’s lack of loyalty to his family and personal connection with his intense loyalty to this “loyalty” program.  I won’t summarize the entire plot of the movie, but I like how the director brings real people into the movie, telling their personal experiences.  I think it takes a lot of balls to show this movie during the holidays and during this difficult time.

upintheair

November 16, 2009

Was Paula Abdul Right?

Filed under: Random thoughts, men — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 1:44 pm

Do opposites really attract, and does that result in a successful long term relationship?  Good girls supposedly love bad boys.  Straight laced guys might prefer wild girls.  Is this because they complement one another and have qualities the other admires?  Do these differences serve to make a relationship better or tear it apart?

Or does it not matter as long as you both want the same things in life?  In talking with most friends, I’ve noticed most couples are typically opposites in personality and yet these opposite qualities can be things people complain or end up arguing about.  So, for example, if one person wants to go out and the other prefers staying home, who wins out?  Or is it just constant compromise?  Isn’t it better if both prefer just prefer staying at home?   Who are you typically attracted to and is that different than the ones you end up with long term relationships with?

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November 12, 2009

Book Review: Life of Edgar Sawtelle

Filed under: Book review — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 7:35 pm

sawtelle

I’m usually an avid reader.  I once set my elementary school record for reading the most pages ever – 40,000.  I guess you could call me somewhat of a bookworm.  So, imagine my surprise when I found myself taking 8 long months to finish a book.  Especially when word of mouth for the book was so good.  Because the pacing of the book was sooo slow, it only got really good at the very end.

I finally finished it a few nights ago and after digesting it, I realized I did have a lot to say about it so I figured I’d write my thoughts down.  The book is called The Life of Edgar Sawtelle and is written by David Wroblewski.  For those who plan on reading the book, please don’t read any further as the next paragraphs pretty much give the whole thing away (SPOILER ALERT).  I’ll do my best to restrain myself and not write a full on essay.

The story is centered on the life of a young fourteen-year-old boy, Edgar Sawtelle, as he grows up on a farm in the Midwest.  His family, through generations of breeding, has raised Sawtelle dogs, which they train and find homes for as adults.  Things turn tragic when Edgar’s long lost uncle, Claude, returns and Edgar’s father mysteriously dies.  The story then becomes eerily similar to Hamlet, as Edgar’s uncle marries his mother while Edgar becomes haunted by his father’s ghost and obsessively tries to prove Claude’s hand in his death.

I didn’t have much interest in whether or not Claude actually murdered Edgar’s father.  Instead, I focused on Edgar’s relationship with his childhood dog, Almondine.  In some ways, Almondine is even more of a mother than his own, as she senses that there is something wrong with him as a baby and senses his needs as he grows up.  Since his birth, Edgar is unable to speak, and the idea of spoken words becomes a central theme throughout the novel.

Edgar’s relationship with Almondine is central to this theme.  Almondine and Edgar become attuned to each other as he grows up and you can sense the depth of their relationship as she longs for Edgar once he flees.   Wroblewski description of her pain is particularly heartbreaking.  Ironically, those who are most capable of speaking become the ones to hide their true words.  Trudy, Edgar’s mother, does not really let on how sick she is and Claude hides his deceptions from others.  Ultimately, the author’s genuine love for dogs and the depth of the relationship between Almondine and Edgar is what I will truly enjoy from this book.

November 11, 2009

Generation Gap Or Worse?

Filed under: Random thoughts — myurbanchick @ 1:10 pm

pcmac

So a couple nights ago, the BF’s roomie had a mini rant about “kids these days.”  He talked about how he saw one not bother to help an elderly person who was right next to him or say “thank you” in general.  He claimed it was the general disintegration of the moral values of society from an evolutionary standpoint but I may have to disagree.  From the dawn of time, older generations have been complaining about how younger generations lack proper courtesy.  Is this simply due to the generation gap between the two?

I also think that it’s a cultural and geographical difference.  People in the South might be taught something different while people in the East or West coast might behave a different way as well.  Culturally, that applies as well.  Why do most Asian cultures take their shoes off before entering a home while European or American cultures do not?  I don’t think you can simply excuse teen behavior by saying our society is tanking or that kids aren’t being taught proper values.

November 9, 2009

Yay! The Trifecta Is Over …For Now

Filed under: Random thoughts, men — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 11:57 am

sports

For the past few weeks, the stars have been all aligned, there’s been a perfect storm…for sports (football, basketball and baseball).  Something sports-related has been on TV almost every single day, with NFL on Sundays and Mondays, the Major League Playoffs, college football, and finally the NBA starting up.  Along with learning not to speak to any guy (or even ask about his day) when he’s in the midst of watching, I’ve also made a few observations:

1.) Ron Artest has a really ugly haircut.

2.) Football linemen have both a ton of fat and muscle.  Doesn’t seem healthy.  Kind of like fattening up a pig and then chasing him around and around with a giant ax but never finishing the job.

3.) Can’t seem to keep Derek Jeter and A-Rod straight.  Which one was dating Madonna and/or Kate Hudson?

4.) Massage therapists get NBA championship rings too.

5.) “Ocho Cinco” is a pretty catchy name.

November 8, 2009

Am I The Last To Know?

Filed under: Shopping, green — Tags: — myurbanchick @ 9:01 pm

siggbottles

I first spotted these a few months ago at a sporting goods store.  The bold colors and cool graphic designs caught my attention and I immediately snapped a picture to send to my friend (we’re both kinda sorta graphic design geeks).  Little did I know that I would soon spot them everywhere I went.  In fact, as I was sitting in a coffee joint earlier today, typing away, I spotted these water bottles on two different tables, right next to each other.

So, me being me, I did a Google search and came across this interesting article on the rapidly growing company.  Known as Sigg bottles, US sales are now 70% of sales for the Swiss company.  Since repositioning themselves in 2005, the company now targets eco-friendly customers like the “Whole Foods Woman” and the “Geek Chic Guy.”

Clearly, this company is filling the hole left by Nalgene, which was hard hit after a massive recall of their plastic bottles.

I actually still have my Nalgene, though I haven’t used it.  Although I was tempted to buy a Swigg when I first spotted it, I’m a bit more reluctant now that I’ve seen them everywhere.  Does anybody own one?  Care to submit a product review?

November 7, 2009

Workout Update

Filed under: Workouts — Tags: , — myurbanchick @ 1:53 pm

workout

I realize it’s been a while since I updated about any new workouts/classes, etc. that I’ve been trying.  Well, that’s because I really haven’t been to any.  Sadly, my earlier enthusiasm for working out has faded (much like the daylight hours).  I mean, seriously, who wants to go workout when it’s now pitch black outside at 5pm?  So, to give myself no options, I recently signed up for a 10k in about a month.  Yesterday, I forced myself to head to the gym.   I just wanted to share a few observations (ok, more like vent).

1.) Since grad school and losing job, I’ve had to downgrade my gym membership.  This gym I go to tries to sell as many memberships to people as possible (i.e. stuff as many people into a hot, stuffy building as they can).  So gone are the eye candy (bye bye Josh Duhamel and Milo Ventimiglia) who are now replaced by some weird people.

  • People who wear leggings/tights to the gym.  Please turn around and look at yourself in the mirror.   That stuff is see through and no one wants to see your stuff hanging out.
  • Cell phone talkers.  You can’t be so important/busy that you can’t put down your phone for 30 minutes.  Come on, just because I have headphones on doesn’t mean I can’t hear your convo!
  • People who smell. Yeah, I know that can’t be helped. But put all you guys in a room together and it’s pretty bad.  Although one time when I was on a cardio machine, the guy next to me kept farting!  I mean, seriously, talk about cruel and inhumane punishment.

2.) Trying to run now is like trying to run with lead legs.  It’s that bad.  I can’t believe how much my age has an impact on recovery time.  I can no longer take time off and get back into running.  It’s a sloooow process.

3.)  I’m always on the hunt for new workout songs.  I need SOMETHING to keep me going.  Lately, it’s been Party in the USA (hangs head in shame). So if anyone has any, let me know!

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